3 Things Marriage has Taught Me in 10 Months

We have come such a long way in our marriage in just ten months! It’s awesome to see how much we have grown individually and as a couple, especially since the last time I posted about what I’ve learned in marriage. If you missed that post, feel free to check it out! Anyway, I feel like we are constantly learning something new about either ourselves or our marriage every week. It’s going to be a lifelong process of learning and growing, and it’s only the beginning! So, let’s get to the good stuff, why don’t we?! Here are three things I’ve learned:

1. Keeping Christ at the center of our marriage is tough, but the most essential thing.

You get busy. Things come up. Life stressors settle in. And God is…. unfortunately left on the back burner of our minds. It’s been so easy to allow circumstances to distract us from seeking God first in our marriage. Our faith is very important to us individually, and it has definitely been an adjustment learning to seek Him together. It’s a work in progress, of course, just like most things in life. Sometimes we will be going through something, and the last thing we do is pray. The last thing we ask about is how the Lord can be using different situations to grow us. In reality, these should be the first things we do so that it helps shift our mindset about the entire situation! This is especially important when disagreements arise. Sometimes, I can get overwhelmed in those moments and I’ll end up saying something that isn’t necessarily said in love, with a tone. And I know y’all know what I’m talking about!!

2. Marriage ain’t easy.

I mean, you’re taking two imperfect people and making them one; there’s going to be some tension! You’re going to have disagreements and misunderstandings; it’s inevitable and part of the process. The key is learning how to work through these issues and really getting at the ROOT of the problem. If you simply treat the symptoms, you’ll be getting into the same arguments over and over again. That ain’t cute, y’all!

3. I am SELFISH.

Now, I’m not saying I’m a mean person when I say I’m selfish, but I have learned that sometimes it is hard to serve my husband the way I should. This is true especially when it comes at an inconvenience to me. When I’m tired or irritated, the last thing I’m thinking about is what I could do to show more love to my hubby. I also struggle with showing him the love that he wants to receive through his main love language, words of affirmation, simply because that’s not necessarily how I receive love myself. It’s not that I’m not his biggest fan, because I am! Since my main love language is acts of service, I forget to make sure I’m consistently affirming my hubby, whether it’s about how he is doing or how he is leading our family. I’ve learned that when I put him first by serving and loving him well, very very good things happen. LOL

{Babe, if you’re reading this, I want you to know that I think you’re amazing and you have come such a long way! Thank you for choosing me to spend your life with!}